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Can you switch roommates if you don't like them? What really are you options if you hate your roommate?

Topic: Roommates | Asked by: Anonymous | Asked on 07/02/2010

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Usually it's possible, but not incredibly simple. I was an RA and dealt with a number of room changes. If you hate your roommate, you have to be VERY flexible about where you are moving to. It's unlikely that the housing office can just place you in your dream room. You have to be willing to room with someone who you know even less about than your current roommate. You also have to be willing to move all your stuff. The resources that schools provide in September (bins, movers) won't be available later in the year. If you are willing to make these concessions, then moving is a good option for you. If you are going to be picky about where you live or who you live with, and moving all your stuff by yourself, you might want to try to either mediate or avoid your roommate. Doing this is a lot easier than it sounds - join groups, make friends, study in the library. There were years when I didn't see my roommates besides the fact that we were sleeping in the same room. My best advice is to avoid potential roommate conflicts before they start. Be friendly with your roommate, but don't involve yourself too much in each others lives and make sure to make more friends elsewhere.

Answered by: Taylor C. | over 2 years ago
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You can switch, there's always rooms open, but you need to assess whether or not you're willing to give up other things for a different room-mate.

Answered by: Toby T. | over 3 years ago
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Many schools do allow you to switch roommates. However, they typically only allow you a certain time frame in which to do so. It is absolutely necessary for you to decide as soon as possible whether or not you need to switch. Typically they would switch you or your roommate out for someone in a different dorm. You also have the option of switching at the beginning of the new semester.

Answered by: Atari M. | about 4 years ago
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Yes, if case is extreme enough, you are able to switch roommates. You may contact your RA or resident adviser if you are having troubles with your current roommate and eventually fill out a request form. Another solution is to confront your roommate and communicate your problems and hopefully come to a resolution or compromise. You may also talk to a mediator(usually the best person for this role would be again, the resident adviser)

Answered by: Helper123 Y. | about 4 years ago
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Most colleges have no problem with letting you switch roommates. But keep in mind the time frames to do so. If you are outside that time frame then most likely you will get a NO. Unless there are serious problems, such as a roommate with severe drug or alcohol problems, or your roommate has threatened you with violence.

Answered by: Leah C. | over 3 years ago
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Of course you can switch roomates if you like. College isn't jail. Tell your housing advisor what the problem is and by the beginning of the next semester a switch will have been made. I can guarantee it. I had a similar problem, and everything worked out.

Answered by: Lmukeeper O. | about 4 years ago
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Usually, you can switch roommates. That is, of course provided that there is an open room available or another person who is looking to switch roommates as well. Try to find a way to contact your roommate before the school year begins. Whether through email or meeting in person so you will have an idea as to if this will work or not. If it seems like a bad fit, you may have enough time to change things before the year starts. If the school year has already started, talk to your RA about changing roommates, they will be able to tell you the process for applying for a change in roommates for your school.

Answered by: Collegechick B. | about 4 years ago
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Yes, this happens from time to time. The best way to go about it is to talk with your RA, the upperclassman who lives in your dorm. The school should have a formal process for changing rooms/roommates.

Answered by: Bitchstewie U. | about 4 years ago
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Most colleges will let you switch rooms if you feel uneasy with your current assignment, but only as a last resort. The first step is to talk things out with your roommate. If you can't reach a compromise, then talk to your resident assistant/advisor. They will offer suggestions, and if they think switching rooms is best then they will guide you through the process of submitting the forms to the campus housing office.

Answered by: Aries W. X. | about 4 years ago
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Students who find that living situations with their assigned roommate should try discussing honestly with the individual they are living with. Mutual agreements on problem issues may be difficult to come by, but by confronting issues, students will learn valuable real-life skills, whilst avoiding the hassle of changing rooms. Should problems persist, a student should speak with an R.A., a residence hall director, or a student counselor. As a last resort, the housing office may be able to provide information on changing rooms.

Answered by: Adamkendallz V. | about 4 years ago
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Whether or not you can switch roommates depends on your college's housing policies. Your first step is to talk to your RA or Hall Director and explain your situation. You may be able to find a new space in another hall. If all else fails, stick it out until the end of the semester and find another living situation.

Answered by: Exadvisor33 A. | about 4 years ago
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At most schools, yes, there is always the option to change roommates if you're really not getting along with them. Obviously, the first suggestion will be to work out the differences between you two first, but a Resident Assistant or someone else with authority will be able to help you. If this fails and there are open spaces in the dorm, or someone else willing to switch, something can usually be done.

Answered by: Paris587 U. | about 4 years ago
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Talk to your Resident Life Staff. Sometimes if there are extenuating circumstances they will let you switch roommates. If you really can't stand your roommate, the best thing you can do is tell Resident Life and get their help.

Answered by: Steve Man D. | about 4 years ago
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If things are really bad and you explain this to the RA you can most likely switch. Schools usually have a two week freeze during the beginning of the semester when you cant move. Other than that you don't have many options.

Answered by: Fast X. | about 4 years ago
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The school housing website should provide an option to change roommates or rooms. Why do you hate your roommate? Have you given the person a change or are they just simply despicable? If you truly do hate the person and no agreement can be made between the two of you then you can of course change rooms. Resolving the situation with your roommate will be the easier choice.

Answered by: Babagday B. | about 4 years ago
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I would talk to your head Resident Assistant, and explain your situation. You may have to have a meeting with your roomate and then the RA will allow you to switch roomates if you both have a valid reason. Also, some colleges allow you switch during the end of the semester without having to break any contracts or meetings.

Answered by: All Incorp O. | about 4 years ago
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Definitely! Most RA's are very understanding about situations where roommates simply cannot live together. There is usually a very simple process that you can go through to get a new roommate. All you need to do is ask your Resident Advisor.

Answered by: Rebeccp H. | about 4 years ago
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Although I do not suggest dropping a roommate at the first difference of opinion, there are ways to change roommates. Seek out your resident advisor and housing director to go in that direction. Yet, make sure t remember that roommates are rarely perfect. Set out guidelines concerning bathroom times, lights out, and visitors. If you and your roommate face conflict, discuss the situation respectfully and try working things out before making any rash decisions. Then, see a resident advisor for more help.

Answered by: Jpeltz Q. | about 4 years ago
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Most schools will allow you to switch if you do not like your roommate. Sometimes you will have to wait during a trial period, the first two weeks or a month into the semester to alter your situation. You will either be randomly assigned to a room or must seek a new roommate to pull you in; it varies depending on where you are. Contact your Residential Office to find out specifications.

Answered by: Jimm34 Z. | about 4 years ago
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I would talk to your head Resident Assistant, and explain your situation. You may have to have a meeting with your roomate and then the RA will allow you to switch roomates if you both have a valid reason. Also, some colleges allow you switch during the end of the semester without having to break any contracts or meetings.

Answered by: All Incorp O. | about 4 years ago
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Definitely! Most RA's are very understanding about situations where roommates simply cannot live together. There is usually a very simple process that you can go through to get a new roommate. All you need to do is ask your Resident Advisor.

Answered by: Rebeccp H. | about 4 years ago
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The best way to get permission to switch is if you have someone that will switch with you already. College is a learning environment and many schools believe that learning to get along with others is part of it.

Answered by: Tina M. | almost 3 years ago
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Who your roommate becomes is normally something that you will probably have no control over but if you cannot live with your roommate, it becomes a nightmare. I did not like mine in my first year and I could not for the semester to end so I could find a better person.

Answered by: Isaac K. | almost 3 years ago
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You can probably talk to someone about it and see if you can be switched with someone else, but remember, you are going to be living with strangers. You can't guarantee that you will find someone better to live with. The next person could be worse.

Answered by: Tyson K. | almost 3 years ago
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First you need to feel into your own sensational feelings of resistance. You know, that uncomfortable-feeling sensation you have when your roommate does something, or says something that annoys you? When you stop yourself from feeling that yucky sensation (which clears within 60 seconds if you let yourself feel it) you immediately switch to the lower part of your mind whose job is to focus on finding pain and problems. So as soon as you stop the uncomfortable feeling, you start thinking about WHY you think you are feeling that way. This part of your mind is always judging and analyzing everyone and everything - there is never any peace found in that part of your mind. The key to facing yourself (and clearing all resistance) is to STOP, Self-focus and KISS. Stop your verbal reaction (it will only make things worse)... Stop your mind from analyzing why... by... Self-focusing on feeling (feel all those uncomfortable-feeling sensations in your body)... Remember to KISS: keep it sensationally simple! You will find that within 60 seconds of doing this one thing, that your roommate (or anyone else) has stopped annoying you - AND you will feel peacefully calm and connected. This simple process clears resistance in EVERY situation. Yell out if you have any more questions :-) Jacqui

Answered by: Jacqui Olliver R. | about 3 years ago
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Yes, you can switch roommates if you don't like them. I would be cautious though. Don't switch just because you aren't best friends with your roommate. If you honestly don't get along, and can't tolerate being in the same room, then absolutely switch. Sometimes you might think you dislike someone but come to find you just didn't know them that well. Give it a few months first and see what happens.

Answered by: Chemistry X. | about 4 years ago
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Different colleges have different ways of dealing with this problem, however it is not something that is easily dealt with. Most colleges do not allow for you to switch roommates though they will do whatever it takes to help you deal with the problem. Having been in this situation, for the most part you are going to have to bite the bullet to a certain extent. Talk to your RA and the RHD of your building and see if something can be worked out but you may need to consider just trying to let bygones be bygones and just tolerate each other until the semester ends.

Answered by: College Student123 T. | about 4 years ago
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Although I do not suggest dropping a roommate at the first difference of opinion, there are ways to change roommates. Seek out your resident advisor and housing director to go in that direction. Yet, make sure t remember that roommates are rarely perfect. Set out guidelines concerning bathroom times, lights out, and visitors. If you and your roommate face conflict, discuss the situation respectfully and try working things out before making any rash decisions. Then, see a resident advisor for more help.

Answered by: Jpeltz Q. | about 4 years ago
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If there are plenty of open rooms at the college they may allow you to switch rooms and roommates. If housing is tight though it may not be allowed. Ask your student advisor and see what suggestions they have for your specific case and school. It makes life pretty miserable at college if you can't stand your roommate.

Answered by: Anonymous J. | about 4 years ago
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Your roommate may not be your favorite person in the world but people can work out their differences, but if you can't stand this person and are worried about possible conflicts you may be able to change roommate. It all depends on the college you are attending's policy about how to make a roommate change. Some will do it immediacy when requested but there are some that only allow you to change in the beginning or the end of a semester. You should see your Residential Life or Housing office to see if you can change your roommate. You should act quickly if you really want to change your roommate.

Answered by: Thomas Clips W. | about 4 years ago
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Pending on what the exact issues are that you have with your roommate, your RA may want you to try and work it out first. If you are really having a tough time, and the problems cannot be solved, your RA can help you move to a different dorm. It is always recommended to try and work it out first (unless your roommate is breaking the law or campus rules and you do not feel safe). This will help you learn life skills in working out problems with other people.

Answered by: Mighty Spidey L. | about 4 years ago
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Colleges do allow you to switch roommates. Usually they will try to mediate a situation, but if that doesn't work they will move you if a spot is available. I had to do this and ended up getting moved into a new room. I was friends with all of the girls, but after a while one of the girls really disliked me. Before you switch rooms, really consider if you can just put up with a nasty roommate. Resident assistants can and will help you with any issues.

Answered by: Allgrw P. | about 4 years ago
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You can to a certain extent. You would have to be able to show reasons (multiple reasons) why you do not like your roommate if you are in the dorms. If you live in an apartment, you would not be able to switch unless you move out or your roommate moves out. Unless you own the house or are the only person on the lease, then you could possibly kick them out.

Answered by: Nb07 Y. | about 4 years ago
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If there are plenty of open rooms at the college they may allow you to switch rooms and roommates. If housing is tight though it may not be allowed. Ask your student advisor and see what suggestions they have for your specific case and school. It makes life pretty miserable at college if you can't stand your roommate.

Answered by: Anonymous J. | about 4 years ago
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Unfortunately, if you hate your roommate you are stuck with them for a while. Housing is almost always limited, and so switching to a new room is often difficult. If you ever feel threatened then let an advisor know immediately and you will be moved to the top of the list for room transfers.

Answered by: Molae06 Q. | about 4 years ago
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Most schools will allow you to switch if you do not like your roommate. Sometimes you will have to wait during a trial period, the first two weeks or a month into the semester to alter your situation. You will either be randomly assigned to a room or must seek a new roommate to pull you in; it varies depending on where you are. Contact your Residential Office to find out specifications.

Answered by: Jimm34 Z. | about 4 years ago
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Even though it's generally frowned upon, switching roommates is usually pretty easy at college. The housing directors don't expect every pairing of complete strangers to get along, so most places make switching rooms easy enough. However, you may have to go through some short "counseling" sessions or something similar with your roommate before you get to move out, but these are painless if you are both in agreement that splitting up is for the best. Just be aware, however, that switching roommates a lot will make it seem like YOU are the one that's hard to get along with, and then no one will want to be your roommate. However, most times a conflict results from poor communication and a lack of respect between roommates. Be sure to be upfront with your problems or concerns with your roommate early, before they get into a habit you can't stand. Letting something that bothers you continue will just make you more angry and liable to explode for no reason. Being passive-aggressive is a real killer in dorm life. However, even if you don't get along with your roommate, college offers a million ways to not have to spend time with them. Get out! Hang out in your friend's room, go to the student center, come back to your room only after your roomie's gone to sleep, or sleep in until they leave.

Answered by: Young Sketchist16 G. | about 4 years ago
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You can only switch roommates in very extreme cases. In most cases of roommate disagreement, the resident adviser of the dorm will try to mediate. Oftentimes, conflict can be resolved through open, honest communication. In general, even if you dislike your roommate, you won't be able to switch rooms. So, it is best to try to get along with your roommate. Of course, if your roommate is involved in any sort of criminal activity, then you will be able to switch roommates.

Answered by: Mem4dr A. | about 4 years ago
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In a dorm situation, you usually can't just drop a bad roomate. The first step is to try and work out whatever difficulties you're having with your roommate so you can at least coexist, even if you don't get along. If that fails, then going to your floor RA or your dorm's head resident for mediation might be a good next step. If that doesn't work, then you may need to escalate to the college administration.

Answered by: Null Terminator N. | about 4 years ago
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If you don't like your roommate you should try talking to them about it. If that doesn't help, you can try talking to your RA. The RA is there to make sure that everything runs smooth between roommates and residents. You can also request a room change. If all of this backfires, you're going to have to learn to compromise. After all, you only really need your dorm to sleep.

Answered by: Lanig91 B. | about 4 years ago
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You can always switch dorms next semester or school year. You can also consider moving off campus to an apartment or other housing situation. Another option is to join a fraternity or sorority and live in their house.

Answered by: Ralloh X. | about 4 years ago
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Unfortunately, if you hate your roommate you are stuck with them for a while. Housing is almost always limited, and so switching to a new room is often difficult. If you ever feel threatened then let an advisor know immediately and you will be moved to the top of the list for room transfers.

Answered by: Molae06 Q. | about 4 years ago
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You can always switch dorms next semester or school year. You can also consider moving off campus to an apartment or other housing situation. Another option is to join a fraternity or sorority and live in their house.

Answered by: Ralloh X. | about 4 years ago
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Even though it's generally frowned upon, switching roommates is usually pretty easy at college. The housing directors don't expect every pairing of complete strangers to get along, so most places make switching rooms easy enough. However, you may have to go through some short "counseling" sessions or something similar with your roommate before you get to move out, but these are painless if you are both in agreement that splitting up is for the best. Just be aware, however, that switching roommates a lot will make it seem like YOU are the one that's hard to get along with, and then no one will want to be your roommate. However, most times a conflict results from poor communication and a lack of respect between roommates. Be sure to be upfront with your problems or concerns with your roommate early, before they get into a habit you can't stand. Letting something that bothers you continue will just make you more angry and liable to explode for no reason. Being passive-aggressive is a real killer in dorm life. However, even if you don't get along with your roommate, college offers a million ways to not have to spend time with them. Get out! Hang out in your friend's room, go to the student center, come back to your room only after your roomie's gone to sleep, or sleep in until they leave.

Answered by: Young Sketchist16 G. | about 4 years ago
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