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Its my first day of school tomorrow. first day in college. i dont know anyone. i am not familiar with the place. and now i'm super nervous. i think i'm hyperventilating. :D any advice on how to cope?

Topic: Academics | Asked by: Anonymous | Asked on 07/02/2010

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Not knowing anyone is not always a bad thing. You have a fresh start. Since no one knows you, they don't know what to expect. You have a chance to gain so many friends and show your best side. Introduce yourself and smile. Ask people what hometown they are from. Ask others for advice about getting around on campus or buying books. You are not the only one who is nervous. You have a bright future ahead. Good luck!

Answered by: Sarahsparks T. | about 4 years ago
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Just keep one thing in mind: EVERY freshman is new and doesn't know anyone. It is not just you. Everyone is nervous, everyone wants to make the ideal first impression. When you think of it this way, it doesn't seem so bad. You are all in the same boat. You will only have one "first day" of college. It only gets easier from there.

Answered by: Mighty Spidey L. | almost 4 years ago
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First of all take a deep breath and if your hyperventilating grab a paper bag and take a few deep breaths into it! Everything will be fine. Everyone is nervous on their first day of college and there are millions of students right now in the exact same place you are. It's your first day, go to class and sit next to someone you think looks nice. Strike up a conversation in the first few minutes of class and if all goes well ask the person to maybe go to the dining hall and grab some food with you. You'll get the hang of your surroundings shortly, just try to relax.

Answered by: Keepsmiling F. | about 4 years ago
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Don't feel alone, because there are probably many new students at your college that are just as nervous as you. Try to be friendly to everyone you meet and you will soon have new friends. Also, don't be afraid to ask around if you get lost or need help. Before you know it, you will be completely comfortable with your new surroundings.

Answered by: Iamerica N. | about 4 years ago
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First of all, BREATHE! Think of it like this. If you are feeling this way, what are the chances that there are lots of other people that feel the same? Tomorrow, go to class, and maybe say "Wow, this is my first day, and this place is HUGE!" It will get the conversation going, and maybe you will make some new friends!

Answered by: Crystal Can Do That I. | about 4 years ago
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The first thing you should do is calm down. First day of college can be very exciting and daunting. In your classes, try to make friends with some people before the lecture starts. This way, you can have a study buddy in all of your classes. Other than that, have fun and enjoy your first day at college.

Answered by: Lanig91 B. | about 4 years ago
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First, take deep breaths and calm down :) Everyone is nervous on their first day of college. I found that getting a campus map and familiarizing yourself with where all your classes are REALLY helps. This way you won't feel as lost on campus. If you don't know anyone, don't worry. You'll meet tons of people. When you sit down in class, just try giving the person next to you a smile and say Hi. You'll be surprised at how receptive people are. Everyone will be willing to meet new friends. Just remember, everyone is as nervous as you. Approach people like how you would like to be approached.

Answered by: Gagel A. | about 4 years ago
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Go ahead and a take a few deep breaths, and consider this fact: EVERY other freshman around you is in the same boat that you are. More importantly, this is your chance to start completely fresh! Introduce yourself to the very first person you see. Explain who you are and that you are brand new, and then ask THEM what you should do as a brand new student. I would almost guarantee you will get a better answer than I can give, and you will probably gain a new friend as well. Freshman year of college is a magical time when everyone is friendly to everyone else, and friends are made almost instantly. Give it a try, you'll be shocked to find out that I'm right.

Answered by: Apalmer822 B. | about 4 years ago
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Been there myself, first thing to keep in mind is you don't need to panic. Colleges work very hard to help freshmen adjust the first few weeks and professors will start out easy on you. You should go through your building and start meeting new people, try to make some new friends. Also it helps to give the parents a call after you are all settled in and tell them about the place. A familiar voice helps to make things seems less imposing.

Answered by: College Student123 T. | about 4 years ago
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The best way to meet friends you are comfortable with is to join groups where you will share similar interests with the other members. Look to campus clubs and activities for a sure-fire way to make new friends fast!

Answered by: dthomas | about 1 year ago
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First and foremost, RELAX! There's absolutely nothing to be nervous about. Go into it head-first and be excited that it's a new opportunity. You'll make friends. It's incredibly hard not to make friends at college, especially living on campus. Just be yourself, be open to new experiences, and be friendly. You'll do just fine.

Answered by: Chemistry X. | about 4 years ago
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Everyone else is new too. Surprisingly, making friends in college is a lot easier than in high school. People are open to new experiences and friends. Just be friendly and willing to talk to people you normally wouldn't. Everyone is curious about eachother so ask questions about their major or where they are from.

Answered by: Allgrw P. | about 4 years ago
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First step: BREATHE!! Second step, realize and remember that you are the same person who just left your hometown and whether you were miss popularity or mr. science guy with few friends now is the opportunity to be who you want to be. College is less cliquey that high school. Its not going to be nearly as hard as you think it is. Just relax and take your time getting to know yourself and depend on yourself in this new environment. Soon you will be looking back and advising others on how and why not to be nervous.

Answered by: Kimberlyann586 B. | about 4 years ago
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Don't worry; you're not alone! Most other freshman won't know anyone either, and some are a *long* way from home. Just think of how you've survived every other "first day" in your school years so far--be friendly, take it one class at a time, and give yourself ample time to get to all of your classes. If you have a little spare time today, you could even try to locate your classrooms so that you know where everything is.

Answered by: Owlie U. | about 4 years ago
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In order to become more familiar with your school, try to use today for "exploring." Get your schedule out and find all of your classes ahead of time, that way you won't be worried about getting lost on the first day. Talk to people in your classes and dorm- this will help you make friends in no time. Try not to focus on all of your worries and fears. Calm down and the first day will be over before you know it!

Answered by: Kasey1720 S. | about 4 years ago
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We have all been there, asking for directions to every class. But this is expected by every student that isnt a freshman. Just know that everyone was new at some point and aren't pestered at all by freshmans. Ask for directions, make friends, and most importantly join some type of groups in your college this is an easy way to meet new people who will be more than happy to get you more comfortable with the campus the people and everything else. Don't be nervous we all did it, and before you know it you will be showing some freshman around after a semester.

Answered by: Jon N. | about 4 years ago
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Relax! It's the first day and will be very laid back. I had severe anxiety and I assure you after you go the first day you will say "That's it?" College rocks compared to high school. Get to your classes early in case you have trouble finding each one - this will cut down on your anxiety greatly. Sit in the back of the class the first day. You can move up closer the next class if you want to. All they are going to do the first day is tell you what to expect for the semester and give you a course syllabus. Plus, if you don't like a certain class, you can drop it and add another one usually for the entire first week!

Answered by: Dantheman50 L. | about 4 years ago
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Don't be nervous! Everyone is always really anxious their first days. Just be yourself and be outgoing and try to meet a lot of new people! Everyone is nice and ready to help you out so don't be afraid to talk to people or ask questions!

Answered by: Ginger Tea K. | about 4 years ago
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Remember that most of your classmates are in the exact same situation that you are. Your classmates are almost all going to be freshman, and it's a great opportunity to meet new people. College also gives you a number of opportunities to meet people who have similar interests as you. Find a group that speaks to you, there are probably several on campus. It's frightening, but you will find it much easier once it begins.

Answered by: Stan567 Z. | about 4 years ago
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Take a deep breath. You're not the only one feeling that way. Look around you're classroom and you'll likely see many nervous faces. Interaction with the people in the seats next to you will likely come easy. Just smile, and be friendly to everyone. After a few weeks you should be comfortable at your new school.

Answered by: Syam V. | about 4 years ago
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Don't worry buddy. The feelings you have are the same feelings everyone is having. Relax. Take a notebook and something to write with tomorrow and get some sleep. You are going to do fine.

Answered by: L Platter F. | about 4 years ago
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First off, try to relax a bit. It will take some time to get used to a new location and new activities. One thing that may help is simply taking initiative to meet people and join campus activities. Try to find something you enjoy and join that club or group.

Answered by: Chaniel K. | about 4 years ago
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First of all, BREATHE! Think of it like this. If you are feeling this way, what are the chances that there are lots of other people that feel the same? Tomorrow, go to class, and maybe say "Wow, this is my first day, and this place is HUGE!" It will get the conversation going, and maybe you will make some new friends!

Answered by: Crystal Can Do That I. | about 4 years ago
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Just relax and be friendly. You're not the only one who is in the same situation so that should be a comforting thought. Take things nice and easy, but focus on your studying!

Answered by: Dealer Z. | about 4 years ago
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Just breathe! Many of those people are also new and going through the same thing. Just be friendly and sit by people that appeal to you in your classes. People in college are much different than in high school. Many people magically grow up during the summer. If you have any questions I'm sure anyone would be happy to answer them. Do not hesitate!

Answered by: Allgrowdup O. | about 4 years ago
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First, remember that everyone else in your freshman class feels just like you do. Next, remember that all of the upperclassmen felt that way their freshman year. Finally, remember that all of your professors were freshmen once, too! Feeling better now? From a practical standpoint, eliminate some of your stress by going out and finding all of your classrooms ahead of time.

Answered by: Reliable O. | about 4 years ago
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First: calm down! Although the first day of college may seem like a horrific experience, there is a very slim chance that something actually horrific will occur. Know that most of the other students will also feel alone and nervous; you are not alone. Fell confident and you will be able to introduce yourself and soon enough you will find acquaintances that feel the same emotions you do. Many of the activities in orientation can answer any questions you have and can lessen your fear. Just don't hyperventilate and get ready for a great college experience!

Answered by: Jpeltz Q. | about 4 years ago
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You'll be fine. Keep in mind, it will be lots of people's first day too, and they will be having the same trouble as you. Allow some time to get lost, and go out and have fun!

Answered by: Laura46 I. | about 4 years ago
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Just breathe! Remember that you are not alone. There are many others who feel the same way you do. A smile will go a long way.

Answered by: Matt I. | about 4 years ago
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Breath. Don't panic. Make sure you have everything you need for class - book, pens, paper, etc. Know where your class is and arrive early. Don't worry about not knowing anyone. Chances are nobody else does either. Just remember, you are there to learn not to make friends. You'll make friends easily so don't stress about it.

Answered by: Dream Scaper X. | about 4 years ago
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First off, try to relax a bit. It will take some time to get used to a new location and new activities. One thing that may help is simply taking initiative to meet people and join campus activities. Try to find something you enjoy and join that club or group.

Answered by: Chaniel K. | about 4 years ago
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Just relax and be friendly. You're not the only one who is in the same situation so that should be a comforting thought. Take things nice and easy, but focus on your studying!

Answered by: Dealer Z. | about 4 years ago
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Just breathe! Many of those people are also new and going through the same thing. Just be friendly and sit by people that appeal to you in your classes. People in college are much different than in high school. Many people magically grow up during the summer. If you have any questions I'm sure anyone would be happy to answer them. Do not hesitate!

Answered by: Allgrowdup O. | about 4 years ago
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First, remember that everyone else in your freshman class feels just like you do. Next, remember that all of the upperclassmen felt that way their freshman year. Finally, remember that all of your professors were freshmen once, too! Feeling better now? From a practical standpoint, eliminate some of your stress by going out and finding all of your classrooms ahead of time.

Answered by: Reliable O. | about 4 years ago
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First: calm down! Although the first day of college may seem like a horrific experience, there is a very slim chance that something actually horrific will occur. Know that most of the other students will also feel alone and nervous; you are not alone. Fell confident and you will be able to introduce yourself and soon enough you will find acquaintances that feel the same emotions you do. Many of the activities in orientation can answer any questions you have and can lessen your fear. Just don't hyperventilate and get ready for a great college experience!

Answered by: Jpeltz Q. | about 4 years ago
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You'll be fine. Keep in mind, it will be lots of people's first day too, and they will be having the same trouble as you. Allow some time to get lost, and go out and have fun!

Answered by: Laura46 I. | about 4 years ago
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Just breathe! Remember that you are not alone. There are many others who feel the same way you do. A smile will go a long way.

Answered by: Matt I. | about 4 years ago
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Breath. Don't panic. Make sure you have everything you need for class - book, pens, paper, etc. Know where your class is and arrive early. Don't worry about not knowing anyone. Chances are nobody else does either. Just remember, you are there to learn not to make friends. You'll make friends easily so don't stress about it.

Answered by: Dream Scaper X. | about 4 years ago
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Stop hyperventilating! You will meet people in the same situation as you. First find the campus directory. Make sure you know where your classes are located. You don't want to be late on your first day. As you go to class and walk around campus you will meet people. Just relax and enjoy this time in your life.

Answered by: Phrisch Later A. | about 4 years ago
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Take a deep breath! Remember that there will be a whole class full of entering freshman who all want to make friends with you as much as you want to make friends with them. Once you meet your roommate, you will be able to help each other find your classes, the dining hall, etc. If you want to make friends as quickly as possible, get a pizza and share with your new hall!

Answered by: Kitty W. | about 4 years ago
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